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SHY GUY SAYS
March 14, 2010, 1:24 am
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Being shy won’t get you very far in life. Harsh but true, I have known this through experience.

Personally, I am half introvert, half extrovert. The ever popular Meyers-Briggs test  results have shown me to be split almost right down the middle– 49% introvert, 51% extrovert.

Despite popular belief.. being an introvert/extrovert has almost nothing to do with being a people person, being social, or anti-social for that matter. It has everything to do with where you draw your energy from. Like many people, there are times where I think better and feel more productive when I am secluded, by myself and left alone to my thoughts and my creativity.

And then there are times where I vibe off of the energy from those around me.

It depends on the situation.

Regardless, introvert or extrovert.. mustering up the energy and courage to introduce yourself and/or starting a conversation can be the difference between..
an encounter, and a friendship,
a sighting, and a relationship,
an introduction, and a job.

Have you ever had a friend who brought their significant other, and they didn’t bother to introduce themselves, or make an effort to talk to anyone, or get to know anyone?

Didn’t you feel like their S.O. wasn’t gaining any brownie points because they were being so shy? It may be that there is their natural personality– shy. And in your head you may be thinking “All right, I’ll give them another shot. They’re probably really cool when you get to know them.”

But that’s the thing.
You gotta get to know them
.
It’s alot easier to be on good terms with people if you get it right the first time.
Doing something as simple as making eye contact, smiling, and reaching out your hand to introduce yourself can make the world of a difference.


There is much truth in the saying that “you only get one shot at making a first impression.”

Believe it or not, some people may get offended because you were being shy.

Because it raises questions in people’s heads  like,

“What’s their problem?”
“Why are they being so anti-social?”
“What’s the matter with them? Why won’t they talk?”

which really just is a misinterpretation (most times) of a person.

HUMANS ARE SOCIAL BEINGS.

We want to feel like people enjoy our company,
am I right?


But think about it.. how hard is it to introduce yourself?
OKAY, I ADMIT. I’VE FALLEN GUILTY TO THIS CRIME. IT CAN BE REALLY HARD.
BUT SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO SUCK IT UP AND GET OVER IT.

Making an effort speaks volumes.

Consider this..

Shy guys probably won’t get a date, a number, or even A NAME.

It doesn’t have to pick up line,

you just need to get to the starting line.

the very least thing you can do, in any social encounter
is to introduce yourself.

You’d be surprised at how many people you’ll meet,
and the wonderful people you will get to know.

Make it a point to be present.

The world won’t like you

unless you leave a good impression.

——

so i dont get sued
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photo 2: http://breakthroughtogod.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/121.jpg
photo 3: http://www.creative-dating-ideas.com/images/CoffeeDate.jpg
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Yeah… I’m like down the middle on that Myers-Briggs test too. I need my space sometimes… I need to be with my peoples sometimes.

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